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Men always seem to be searching for more opportunities: to make more money, to build bigger homes to please their loved ones at home, to buy better cars, to provide more. But they fail to look back to a time where they have lost her, the center of their home, the core of each household, where they have lost the love of his life- his wife. Is she with you or you have lost her?!
It is not easy to find this out so I am bringing examples for those men who are not sure when they have lost her: Have you seen her recently smiling, pretending she is fine, in the kitchen keeping busy? Behind those smiles and that happy naive face there is a story. A woman's heart is like an ocean; she has secrets, things that if she shares with, she worries you might leave her. Things that, if she shares with the world, people may judge her. So she keeps smiling and keeps her secrets to herself- all of those shameful secrets and hurtful experiences. And in those experiences you also might be in the picture. You might have done things to her that has hurt her in the past, but she and her big soul do not like to share the sadness of the feeling with you. Be aware of the smiles, the happy face and the meaningful questions she asks you, or the way she looks at you while cooking in the kitchen, talking to you on the phone. All of those things can tell you if you are about to lose her. Be aware my friends, women are very smart creatures, and it is hard to find out what is going on in their hearts. They feel things rather than expressing them. They feel when they have been loved, they remember the details and they never forget the words you choose to express yourself. It is important to know women’s brain is just like a big complex building with many rooms and hallways to connect the rooms together.
How many times do you try to call her when she is far away? At work or out doing grocery shopping? Do you help her at home or try to help her at home? How many times you offer a walk in the park or somewhere you know she loves to go? How many times you try to light a candle at home on her cold winter night? If it is always her doing these things at home, making things move on smoothly for you, believe me, you have lost her.
Another time you may find you have lost her is if she keeps her distance from you, like when she goes on the computer when you are at home in the other room. Or when she is trying to clean and dust and do house work when you are home, just to look busy in a professional way but deep in her heart she wants to forget your existence. Be aware of this. My point is it might not too late to find her again. Women are emotional. Approach them with care or you will lose her. Things I am saying may sound funny, weird, strange to some men out there, but this is why they have lost their loved ones in the past, or are losing them right now.
Think deeply and ask yourself how many times you see she is feeling down, and tried to hold her, caress her belly, give her a shoulder massage and kiss her neck? Women need and seek love at all times, they just may not know how to express it, so they try to smile in the kitchen while pouring tea for you and keep quiet and break down inside. But they always remember whether you approached them during those times or not. They enjoy compliments and feeling they have been noticed by you. They like to feel they have been loved and are loved. It does not matter how old they are- fifty years old, twenty years old, eighty-two years old- women love to receive love at any age. She might live with you for many years because of the kids or her situations with her parents or the financial knots you have together, but how sad to know you have lost her many years ago whereas, by doing simple things you could have her all the way through your shared life together.
Life is a complicated journey we try to travel though with our partner. If we lose our other half how can we finish this tough road without support, love and care?
I hope this article makes some of the husbands, lovers, boyfriends to wake up and stop losing her as it might not be late still.
Love, Victoria
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