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I am an Iranian-Jewish guy.  I am looking for a female “companionship/soul mate” and I don’t know where to look for that. Every single one that I’ve met wasn’t Jewish and I am not comfortable dating non-Jews.
Should there be any place(s) in your mind that singles gather to meet new faces and mingle, please let me know.
By the way, I am not a bar going nor club going person. And nationality IS NOT an issue to me. It doesn’t matter to me if she is Persian, American, and Latino or so on.....All I care about is her religion to match with mine.
Your response to this email as well as your assistance in any way, shape or form is greatly appreciated.



TO FRIEND:
I find your interest in finding a companion of the same religion admirable.  It would be difficult for a devout Jew, Muslim, Christian, Baha’i or any other faith to marry, for example, an atheist.  Eventually trouble would arise out of their different beliefs and value systems especially once children are introduced into such a relationship.  However, such could also be the case even when the individuals are members of the same faith when only one is a devout believer and the other is only a member of that faith by name.  It is the value system and beliefs of a faithful member of any religion that derives them to their daily choices, habits and behavior.  Therefore, while engaged in finding your soul mate you need to be looking for your best friend in her first.  
If my husband and I had been set on meeting someone of our own faith, he and I would have missed out on the best experiences of our lives.  However, since we had a very close friendship we got to know each other; we shared hopes and dreams; understood and respected one another’s value and beliefs.  We now also share the same faith together and that has brought our relationship to even greater heights.
You are correct in not looking for your soul mate in a bar or club.  Though many young adults may find such places interesting for a short while, it is not the desired hobby one would admire in the future mother/father of one’s children.
Your places of worship and religious social gatherings, your work place or places of hobbies, such as art/poetry classes, community involvement (volunteering), sport clubs and etc. are places where you can meet individuals and get to know them and share common interests.
Remember that 99% of your success in life will depend on the partner you choose...and the secret in a lasting relationship is that both individuals should be anxiously engaged to make their partner happy.  The world is your limit so reach for the sky.
Sincerely,
Maryam

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